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It has been said many times that it is not the “thing” but how we see them. But why do we always fall victim to the mind’s fearful stories that make us anxious? You might be surprised by the simplicity of the answers and practices that will create clarity and bring skillful discernment of things around us. It is enough quality sleep, balanced nutrition, human connection and movement.

Paul Check also simplified this approach with his four doctors you’ll ever need, Dr. Diet, Dr. Quiet, Dr. Happiness & Dr. movement. These are your foundation for having a balanced we’ll being and not fall into the trap of the ego. Imagine your days as a game you play. You need preparation and conditioning before showing up daily much like participating in a sporting match. Prepare by having proper sleep, eating healthy foods, having human connection and strenuous exercise. Having this done early in the morning, you are now able to apply these mind tools that will help you become more positive any time of the day you sense that you are being attacked by anxiety, fear or worry.

Recenter by saying: Now I am………

As you go about your day your mind might ruminate on a thing that is about to happen or a thing that it thinks should happen. When you sense that your world is getting limited, rigid and constraint bring yourself to center by saying “Now I am……. “ Followed by the thing you are doing at the moment. It might be brushing your teeth, walking down the street or washing dishes. This phrase powerfuly brings all of the attention to the present liberation you from the entangling complexities that the mind presents. We realize that now you are just a person being this, nothing more, nothing to be afraid of, nothing to fix, just this, folding the clothes, no more added opinions.

Make this an hourly habit, Now I am this….. Maybe just a human being at peace with all things. From this space we can redirect our attention to something positive. Just to experience life, the infinite intelligence happening as you. That is enough to be joyful of. Start here, and always make it a point to comeback here if you entangled yourself far from your center.

“I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened. ”
– Mark Twain

Slow down

Our brains run on an average of 2100 thoughts per second if we try to analyze, deal and tend to each one of them, this will be the cause of unnecessary stress and anxiety. Imagine our brains as receptors of signals, it is so majestic that it receives a variety of ideas and insights but our awareness need not to ride each train that passes by. It is just impossible. You can slow the pace of your thought receiving brain by simply observing and being non attached to them. The cycles of your brain will lower if you sit still and let things be, entertaining your thoughts produces more thoughts leading to never ending questions and complexity. Take a deep breath, watch the mind, observe, don’t react. This is how you slow down.

Here are the brain wave states. We mostly function on beta throughout the day, but we can slow things down and get to theta for balance & ease.

Gamma (γ)	>35 Hz	Concentration
Beta (β)	12–35 Hz	Anxiety dominant, active, external attention, relaxed
Alpha (α)	8–12 Hz	Very relaxed, passive attention
Theta (θ)	4–8 Hz	Deeply relaxed, inward focused
Delta (δ)	0.5–4 Hz	Sleep

Reduce distractions

Watch where you spend your time. We often get caught getting pulled in different directions. We are spread thin with multiple goals and impulses. Let go of the activities that don’t bring you closer to your goal. Lessen the time thinking of things that bother you. It is often our misguided opinions, judgements and criticisms that drains us of our precious energy. If a negative impulse or thought arises and is moose’s itself unto you, be bothered for 1 minute and let it go. Stay undistracted by internalizing your ideal self. Envision yourself being loving, tranquil, joyful and accepting. Deliberately choose to not be distracted. Be committed to where your aim is at. What ever you aim at, the world configures itself according to that specific aim. What you notice expands. Notice the good, meditate on your primary aim, be undistracted.

“We can cope with uncomfortable internal triggers by reflecting on, rather than reacting to, our discomfort. We can reimagine the task we’re trying to accomplish by looking for the fun in it and focusing on it more intensely. Finally, and most important, we can change the way we see ourselves to get rid of self-limiting beliefs.”
– Nir Eyal

See good in everything

There is always the other side of the story. We see things not for what they are but for what we are. It depends on through what lens we see the situation. In this practice we can totally let go of how you perceive a situation and see it from a place of equanimity. You might think you are being harmed or offended, but nothing can really harm but our own minds untrained to see other sides of the story. This skill of seeing things from the birds eye view will save you a lot of unnecessary pain. In seeing the good in everything, you draw in more good things to your hemisphere, your domain, your frequency. Remember that what you focus on expands? Make a choice of expanding what is good in your situation right now. Reach for the next best feeling thought and watch it grow and blossom to fruits of goodness that you and others will enjoy. If you can breathe right now, you doin pretty good.

“When you focus on being the best person you can be, you draw the best possible life, love, and opportunities to you.”
– Germany Kent

Bless your blessings

Make gratitude your default attitude. Bless your triumphs, your adversities and setbacks. Acknowledge the person you became up to this point in time. Make use of the gifts and inspirations that you embody. Know that you have all that you ever need to take that next step in your journey. You are blessed with all of the things you’ll ever need. You can read, you can breathe, you can move your limbs, you can light someone up, you can put things together. Through openness and a little courage, we open ourselves up to more blessings. Honor the higher power, the intelligence greater than you, the one true source of all, surrender all of your fears and questions and watch your blessings grow. In priming our minds with gratitude, the brain acts as if it already has, as a result the subconscious directs more of the things you are blessed with your way.

“This is a wonderful day. I have never seen this one before.”
– Maya Angelou

Prioritize calmness

We often take for granted the importance of calmness. Let go of the addiction to thinking and busyness. The real deal in life reveal themselves after the storms of the mind have settled. In prioritizing calmness, we establish space from anything that can throw you off balance. Build your foundation of calm first before engaging in any outward activity. Making a commitment to calmness despite changes. When we are in a sustained calm state, we are open to see more beauty around us.

Start by having a quiet time alone, often times we start the day rushing to do things. This is voluntarily running towards imbalance. Establish your calm first, maybe some affirmations like “I’m eternal, immortal, universal & infinite” or “This is my day, I accept complete responsibility for my life for I know that I am power” or “Out of this day only good will come, All is well & I am safe”. Carry on these feelings as you go through each task of the day making calm your priority and the center of your being.

“Silence is the element in which great things fashion themselves together.”
– Thomas Carlyle

You are not your story

Create your ideal self by regularly shedding bits and pieces of yourself that don’t help you get to the future self you desire. Your story keeps on changing as you change and learn daily. You are not your story means there is no need to attach to or repeat habits and actions you did yesterday. Reflect each morning on where you want to go within the short term & long term. Study your actions and keep other people’s input from a distance. Create your story daily, open to new things and course correcting. You are not your story, thoughts and actions. Know truth by sitting still and observing. Know the bigness of your being, you are all things, in this knowingness you return to balance and ease. Let go of stories, narratives and expectation remember; nothing is what it seems. Give it space….. then let it be.

“People often say that this or that person has not yet found himself. But the self is not something one finds. It is something one creates.”
– Thomas Szasz

Question everything

If something bothersome arises, be quick in noticing so you can nip it in the bud. Awareness is key, through questioning; pausing before reacting, we create space where in we get to fully understand before imposing any action that may worsen the scenario. Reflect on what things that I do everyday that are making things worse? Change the simple daily things you do to always redirect your movement towards your ideal.

Sometimes just stopping and accepting returns our emotions back to balance and ease. See as the bird would, from above. See the whole picture with many participants and preferences involved. Remember that we are functioning most of our days on the intellectual part of the brain which is very limited. It just keeps on dissecting, cutting, asking, avoiding and imposing. Peace and balance is found when we do not engage in these characteristics of the intellect. Just know that the mind is naturally hard wired this way and there is no need for you to act on it and fix it immediately.

Ask; is it true? Is it absolutely true? Who would I be without this thought?

“Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don’t have to like it… it’s just easier if you do.”
– Byron Katie

Go back to your why

Whenever feeling lost in the complexities of your day. Go back to your why. What is the bigger purpose of why you are engaged in your present task. An example would be, “Im in the grocery store and this is such an annoying task”. If you go back to the bigger “why” of the reason behind you are there is “Im in the grocery store because I’m taking charge of the nourishment of my family and myself”. This thought will immediately bring you to center and will get the job done with purpose. Doing things backed with an honorable mission is easier than going through a task hurriedly and gruntingly.

Another thing I like doing is appreciating the transitions, from the grocery to the car, loading and unloading the items, our lives are made up of these moments that are not any different from special events we look forward to like an extravagant vacation or a holiday.

Keep your mission vision intact and close to heart and mind. Your work is important and needed in the world although it may not appear so.

Going back to your why reveals to you a big vision resulting to more energy to accomplish.

“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Notice Nature

Make time to look up to the sky. Let yourself be absorbed by the vastness of it. Notice the patterns on the rocks, the sidewalk, the graffiti. Notice the unnoticeable, the spaces between the leaves, the dirt beneath you, the orb like sparkles on the water. Nature is our greatest teacher. We are of it. Feel this connection through grounding and maybe surrender your questions to the trees. Shinrin yoku is the Japanese term for forest bathing. Take a walk along the trail and breathe in clean fresh rejuvenating air. This is guaranteed to bring you back to center and balance.

“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”
– Alexandra Domelle

Conclusion

Balance and ease can be achieved anytime of day. It is best to prime ourselves in the morning. Make calmness a priority, make our dedication to our highest good unwavering. Notice nature to remind us that all is well and there is infinite well of good from within. How will you be handling your day to day?

“Life without a plan, As useless as the moment it began, Serves merely as a soil for discontent. To thrive in, an encumbrance ere half spent.”
– James Allen

You opened up your mind and tried many practices, ideologies, and activities but you still feel you aren’t where you are supposed to be. You work yourself to the point of burning out and still feel unfulfilled? No matter how hard you try there is always something lacking in your life. You do not need to look elsewhere for the answer is already with you. With just a minor tweak in your thinking, you are well on your way to living a better version of yourself. Your life’s worth is not dependent on what you do, what you produce, or what you have to give. It is how you feel about each moment in your life that adds up and make the quality of your life. So with these prompts, let’s make one of ease, simplicity, & impact.

Master your mornings

Make a commitment the night before. Decide the time of waking. Aim for 7-8 hours of sleep. Make sure you hit these crucial points upon waking.

Silence
Affirmation
Visualization
Tidy up
Movement
Identify Key 3 Key Actions that aligns with your last ng term goal

Mastering your mornings will speed up your self-actualization. You will learn a lot about yourself and you will build the type of person who can rise above the norm and is one of high performance and excellence. Before achieving greatness, start by mastering your mornings.

“Remember, the moment you accept total responsibility for everything in your life is the moment you claim the power to change anything in your life.”
– Hal Elrod

Break free from the constant urge to do something

After you have identified the person you intend to become, you will constantly be bombarded by distractions. Once you have decided on a particular thing, commit to it till it’s done. It’s always helpful to be specific. An example would be the law of 100, 100 push-ups, 100 articles, 100 emails, 100 paintings, it is up to you. You won’t have time for distractions because you have your blinders on focused on those 100 somethings that you have decided to put your focus on. It doesn’t need to be 100, the key here is to aim for a specific number to finish in a certain time frame for a certain amount of days. You get to design this so there will be no reason for it to not fit your lifestyle. Aren’t you psyched? What 100 of something are you aiming for?

When you feel the impulse to do something ask, does this help me in achieving the goal I have decided for myself?

“At the end of the day, you can’t control the results; you can only control your effort level and your focus.”
– Ben Zobrist

Drop in and deepen the moment

You can always drop in and be present even in the middle of your day-to-day activities. There is immense depth in each moment and it can be a gateway to eternity and total peace. You can drop into this state in he middle of washing dishes, doing laundry and cleaning. Carry presentness not only in your morning routine but all through out the day. Keep the expandedness you cultivated in your morning meditation, it is a space that will keep you safe from all ever changing external circumstances. Whenever feeling constrained, just drop in and know that you are much bigger than all that surrounds you.

“Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it.”
– Eckhart Tolle

Perform an act of kindness

What makes us suffer is our delusion of separateness. Often times we ask what is in it for us before doing anything. This leads to very little or no return in energy. Be giving in ways that you are unique and you shall be compensated in unexpected ways. Big heart = Big profit, Little heart = Little profit. We are not separate from each other and how we serve. Imagine your external as a mirror. You are helped as you help. You are glorified as you glorify. Inside of us is an infinite well of stamina and enthusiasm. So open up and don’t be stingy on what you can give, you have a lot.

“Be happy with what you have and are, be generous with both, and you won’t have to hunt for happiness.”
William Gladstone

Stop putting things off and face what needs facing

In living with intention, start being accountable for your situation. Start with little things, tidy up your personal space, be on time with your financial obligations, keep your kitchen organized and schedule those experiences that have been wanting to become reality. Face things as they are and the intensity of their overwhelm diminishes, put them off and it grows stronger from a lizard to a dragon. Nip it in the bud before it gets too beg and devours you. Most of them are really easy and just needs a little decisiveness and tenacity which you already have in you.

“Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today”
– Benjamin Franklin

Do more of the things that make you feel alive

Indulge your creativity. Cultivate the courage to create. What you are interested in right now is only a bridge to many doors of more curiosities that will lead to more skills and opportunities. A couple of hours of flow state a day will keep you balanced and keep you connected to your higher self, the real you. So whatever it may be, drawing, dancing, walking, cooking, engage in it and be one with it. Intend this important activity. A couple of hours of feeling truly alive will get you through any issues that might come across in your day.

“Keep taking time for yourself until you are you again.”
– Lalah Delia

Let go of the habit of revisiting old negative stories

Disrupt the pattern of replaying the same story. The mind only does this because it sticks to what it knows. It has found comfort in it’s own misery. Drop the old story, flip the narrative and start anew. Treat it like an old movie that you have grown out of. Today try writing a new screenplay, one of triumph, epic adventure and a guaranteed happy ending. All are just stories you tell yourself, why not make it a good one. Remember all we need is just a little intention and decisiveness. Decide that today is a good story and so it will be.

Write it on your heart
that every day is the best day in the year.
He is rich who owns the day, and no one owns the day
who allows it to be invaded with fret and anxiety.

“Finish every day and be done with it.
You have done what you could.
Some blunders and absurdities, no doubt crept in.
Forget them as soon as you can, tomorrow is a new day;
begin it well and serenely, with too high a spirit
to be cumbered with your old nonsense.”

“This new day is too dear,
with its hopes and invitations,
to waste a moment on the yesterdays.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Stop waiting for the ideal path to appear

The ideal path won’t be presented to you on a silver platter. The universe doesn’t owe you a framework to follow. Everything outside of you is in hazy wave form, you harden them into material form through thought and inspired action. Be open to paths to take in order to arrive closer to your north star. There are many ways to peel an orange. How you will arrive at your desired destination is up to you. One thing is for sure, you gotta move towards it. Just take that one single step forward each day and be aware of the changes along the way.

“Luck comes to a man who puts himself in the way of it. You went where something might be found and you found something, simple as that.”
– Louis L’amour

Maintain composure in the amidst change

Our natural state is one of balance. Work on your inner stability so strong that no external test can make you wobble. Do not take anything too seriously. Give everything space, allow them to be. Everything is just another one of those. You are one of billions who are having the same experience and actually if you are reading this, you are doing pretty good. You are taking charge in empowering yourself with tools to navigate this ever changing world. Strengthen your centeredness. It is best to establish this early in the morning.

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose”
– Romans 8:28

Afterthoughts

Serenity can be accessed anytime of day. Nourish and nurture what your higher self or real self calls you to become. With dedication to your mission, commitment, diligence, watchfulness, energy and effort all can be attained. Work with the great power higher than ourselves. Make each day count by making the right choices. The power is in you, now.

Visualize being less stressed, more focused, and lighter every day gently walking towards your goals.

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”
– Aristotle

Set the tone of your day by practicing simple habits. Your mornings are your foundation. Make it a point that you establish and tackle your non negotiable commitments first before the urgencies take over and get the best of you.

The key here is to be intentional. Once you establish the importance of certain things, it will be easy for you to commit and follow through.

Present moment awareness before you touch your phone

Set a time for waking the night before. Spend first couple of hours of waking in silence. Observe your urges of checking your emails and notifications. This is because you are addicted to cheap dopamine. You get rewards for looking at updates because your brain constantly want something new. Low effort high reward but damaging in the long term and leaves you feeling empty when the scrolling stops. Try engaging in a more enriching and engaging activity; maybe non activity will give your brain a much needed reset.

“You may not be tired after all; you might just be exhausted from playing dopamine tennis with your brain.”
– Naval

Clear the mind of loop traps

Before engaging in any activity. Clear the head of loop traps. Observe your triggers, will you allow something that bothered you yesterday bother you today? Most of us hit the replay button of the same story. This is because the mind likes patterns and sticks to what it knows. With intention clear all caches and histories. Start on a new white smooth clear white canvas. Notice hunches and new possibilities. Don’t get trapped in cycles of nonsense. Take a deep breath, embody your truth and head on out with a new story to write.

“Creativity involves breaking out of established patterns in order to look at things in a different way.”
– Eduard De Bono

Luke warm water + Lemon

Skip the coffee, wait till after a couple of hours to optimize benefits of caffeine. Let your natural hormone cortisol spike up and level out first before adding caffeine to your system, this I learned from Andrew Huberman. Lemon water will alkalize your system, remove toxins that might have built up, vitamin c and it’s just refreshing and will give your day a zesty start.

“After you put your feet on the floor in the morning, immediately say this phrase, “It’s going to be a great day.” As you say these seven words, try to feel optimistic and positive.”
– Bj Fogg

Make your bed and tidy up your room

Pretend the person you are trying to impress is going to enter your room in 10 minutes. Watch how beautiful your room will get no time. Completing a task like this sets you up to take on more tasks with confidence. There’s a book called make your bed. Tidying up your room gives respect and reverence to your dwelling. It gives respect and reverence to your self. It is where you sleep and heal and it should be orderly and dandy like a modern zen retreat center. This will free up a lot of space in your mind. Your stuff and Knick knacks around you don’t only take up space in your room, they take up space in your head too. So tidy up, organize and put things away. This will help you a whole lot.

“That obstacle course is going to beat you every time unless you start taking some risks.”
– William McRaven Quotes from Make Your Bed

Gratitude

Cultivate a calm smile as you enumerate things you are grateful for. Gratitude relieves tension, induces serotonin, dopamine and endorphins. Focus on the fullness of life rather than what is lacking. Carry this mindset all throughout the day. This can even be done in 1 minute before getting up. Think of one person and one opportunity you are thankful for.

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”
– Melodie Beattie

3 key actions of the day

Turn your 10 to dos to 3 musts. These are important specific actions you need to accomplish to make the day a success. What 3 key actions do you need to do that will help you get closer to your long term goal.

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
– H G Jackson

Make undistracted time and place

Our best focused work can be done in the morning. One study shows that we are distracted every 6 – 8 minutes and it takes another 22 minutes for a “task residue” to be fully dissolved. A little bit of intentionality and being specific with your undistracted time and place will be beneficial.

“ten-minute rule.” If I find myself wanting to check my phone as a pacification device when I can’t think of anything better to do, I tell myself it’s fine to give in, but not right now. I have to wait just ten minutes.”
– Nir Eyal

Prime for positivity

Set some time to commit to positivity. That today you will focus on solutions. That you will see the good side of things. You will focus on how you are learning and not how you are correct. Create this state that is above circumstances and be ready to tackle on the variables of the day.

“Once you start making the effort to “wake yourself up” – that is, be more mindful in your activities – you suddenly start appreciating
life a lot more.”
– Robert Biswas-yDiener

Conclusion

Our mindsets can make or break our day which makes up our week, months and years. A little effort and consistency goes a long way. We know so much information on how to become the best but the real game lies in the application of what we know.

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Much of our Peace and happiness comes not from outside of us but how we see and perceive a certain thing. The same is true for its counterpart, much of our pain and suffering is not outside of us but it is self inflicted. Know how to operate in harmony with the nature of your mind and new worlds of wonderful and beautiful things shall enter your world.

Are you bothered and irritated most of the time? Do you find yourself listening to your negative voices that talk non stop? The first important thing is to realize that you want this to change. Solutions need not be expensive and should come from outside of you like medication and therapy. You have the power to fix your mental health from the inside. Here are 6 key principles and how to integrate them into your day to day to further improve your mental well-being.

1. Become The Observer

learning this skill greatly increases your overall well-being. Seeing yourself as the awareness of your thoughts and behavior puts you in a position to control how you are going to respond with wider understanding and compassion.

To become the observer, take a deep breath and look at everything from a birds eye view. See yourself as a person undergoing a moment of experience right now. It may be eventful or non eventful. Pay attention to the things going on with or without your preferences. Like cars passing by, clouds appearing and disappearing, you can even see and feel the whole world happening without your participation.

Knowing this you relieve yourself of anxiety and realize that much of the things bothering you are really of no importance. All are just opinions of the mind and you can rise up and be bigger than its chatter.

“Nothing has such power to broaden the mind as the ability to investigate systematically and truly all that comes under thy observation in life.”
– Marcus Aurelius

2. Be Open To Accept

Accepting things that you cannot change and changing things that you can. I’m pretty sure we heard this one. Not accepting a situation or an idea creates resistance in your over all well-being. There are billions of people on earth with varying ideas and preferences, accepting the truth that we are all different opens us up for creative collaboration rather than the zero sum game of competition.

Get passed your initial reaction of dismissing an idea presented to you. Things come to your domain of familiarity for a reason. Take a moment to look at things and first observe how it feels, then accept it as it is. Nobody can force you to act on things against your will but it is vital to accept and respect the diverse sentiments of others.

Remember, your initial reaction mostly comes from the ego’s perspective of self preservation. Preserving something it holds of value, maybe its preferences, its comfort, its programming. They might be true to some extent but make time to inquire is this Universally an absolute truth from all angles?

Look to nature, as the mountain accepts the storm. Be like this. Widen your capability to accept. That is what we are here for, to grow in ways on how we perceive the beauty of everything and each and every moment.

Next time when you find yourself stuck in traffic, take a deep breath and have no feeling about it. Just do traffic with no opinions added. Just acceptance.

“Serenity comes when you trade expectations for acceptance.”
– Gautama Buddha

3. Declutter The Mind

Much like your closet and your desk, the mind tends to get cluttered. But instead of material things, it is often times overloaded with memories, concepts, programming, opinions and random thoughts. Anxious and confused state of being is just simply a lack of organization. The nature of the mind to paint pictures of doubt and threat is actually to our benefit, it lead us to think and evolve to what we are today. But not knowing how to use the mind will bring detriment instead of benefit. Evolution brought us here and it doesn’t end there, we still need to know how to operate in harmony with the brilliance of the mind. It is a double edged sword, like fire or technology, it can either make or break you.

“Your brain is a weights only three pounds but it processes 70,000 thoughts each day using 100 billion neurons that connect at more than 500 trillion points through synapses that travel 300 miles/hour.”
– Healthybrains.org

Can you wrap your head around these numbers? It is truly astounding. So now that we know how powerful our brains are, it is time to know how to use it. Your brain doesn’t stop thinking because it is its nature but you aren’t required to act on each and every one of them. Mind only gets cluttered when you believe each and every thought it comes across with. Declutter the mind by mindful breathing, noticing the thoughts and letting them pass by. One of my favorite phrases is “Be Engaged, Not Entangled”.

4. Cultivate Compassion

Most people are contaminated by negativity and this is not due to their destiny or the cards they were dealt with. It’s just they do not know yet that things could be different. Being judge mental and critical of self and others will raise up your stress levels and will do damage on your well being and relationships. Self compassion is a powerful coping mechanism that will change the way you see the world. Start by being compassionate with yourself. It all starts within you. I like to use Louise Haye’s meditation of imagining yourself and others as babies. This will immediately bring forth compassion because the nurturing nature of yourself will activate making you want to tend and take care of life. That no one is doing you wrong, a baby couldn’t do wrong, you are here to take care of the children in everyone you encounter. So give that a try.

Imagine the unconditional love of God for people, imagine the unconditional love of parent to child. It doesn’t reprimand nor judge. It is just there for you. This type of unconditional love is called Agape. You are able to access this Love within and only when it overflows then you share it with others.

Loving yourself First will diminish cumulative stress, foster better relationships, stand composed during tense situations. Cultivate this unconditional love for self and others and discover a version of your self that is calmer and stronger.

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion,”
– The Dalai Lama 14

5. Enumerate Your Blessings

Let’s go deeper than counting your blessings. Enumerate and write them down. Write 3 things you are grateful for right now. Think of the things you have now and didn’t you just years ago only have them as desires? Celebrate your wins no matter how small. Being in the state of Gratitude opens you up for more blessings. It shifts your attention from what you don’t have to things that you have now and will have. Gratitude unshackles you from toxic spiraling negative thoughts. So take a break pursuing things you don’t have yet and focus and praise the things you have now.

“Being grateful all the time isn’t easy. But it’s when you least feel thankful that you are most in need of what gratitude can give you: perspective. Gratitude can transform any situation. It alters your vibration, moving you from negative energy to positive. It’s the quickest, easiest most powerful way to effect change in your life — this I know for sure.”
– Oprah Winfrey

6. Increase Your Aq (Adversity Quotient)

Your Adversity Quotient is your ability to overcome and endure obstacles to turn them into opportunities. If you choose to broaden your Aq, you will be more adaptable in stressful situations. Have an approach mindset instead of avoid, be proactive rather than reactive. The more hard things you can handle, the easier it gets in the future. Facing the truth, being accountable and responsible for the nearest task at hand for the greater good will help you increasing your Adversity Quotient. Remember, everything has a solution and can be progressed and fixed. Are you gonna give up or warrior up? The up is up to you. Face some challenges, voluntarily lift something heavy and you’ll be resilient and won’t be stressed easily.

“All the adversity I’ve had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me. You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.”
– Walt Disney

Conclusion

These 6 insights are of no use until practiced. Start with one and keep it on in your mind all throughout the day and know when to apply them. Knowledge is only power when applied. May you look at things with more compassion, gratitude, curiosity gaining resilience along the way.

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Happy comes from the root word Hap which means chance or good fortune. Its first meaning was recorded in 14c which means “luck” except for the Welsh which means “wise”.

Being lucky and being wise are quite different.
Don’t we rather be “wise” and take charge of our own luck? Naval Ravikant’s 4 types of luck is worth looking into.

You create your own luck by putting yourself in a position where luck can find you.

In his podcast Naval discusses four kinds of luck.

1-Blind Luck – This is pure dumb luck, fortune, or fate. Where were you born? Who are your parents? Stuff you have zero control over.
2-Luck from Hustling – Luck that comes from hard work and persistence. Opportunities are created through sheer energy and activity. Things get “stirred up” from the high amount of activity. The more activity you generate, the more opportunities that arise.
3-Luck From Preparation – Luck that comes from being prepared to act on an opportunity. Having the ability to spot an opportunity. Other people do not notice, but you are skilled and attuned to spotting an opportunity. You are sensitive to luck.
4-Luck From Your Unique Character – Luck that is generated because you have built a unique mindset or brand. Opportunities arise because you are one of the most qualified people to assist. Somebody else spots an opportunity and turns to you to assist because you are uniquely qualified. Someone else’s blind luck becomes your opportunity.

Source: https://www.michaeldmcgill.com/2021/04/24/how-to-create-your-own-luck/

There is also Joy which is defined to be the source of pleasure and happiness. Joy being an inner feeling rather than an outward expression which is happiness. We can simplify this concept with the oldest aphorism “As within so without” The duty here is to cultivate inward unconditional Joy and its outward expression will flow out effortlessly as happiness.

Let’s dive into these insights.

1. Learn Something New

Make a daily habit of learning something new. Learning fires up new neural connections in your brain. Keeping your brain healthy, opening up doors to other ventures and increases your value. So entertain your curiosity, it might lead to new wonderful places. Question the normal, open yourself up to new combinations of interests to get to know yourself even deeper. You can always let go if it doesn’t resonate. But always keep on trying new things, there is a lot out there, from cuisines to musical instruments to language to arts and crafts. Get comfortable with something new and get ready for better worlds. Remember that you contain multitudes.

2. Let go

Unload the things that don’t serve you. Imagine letting go of a heavy backpack. Letting go is acceptance of things you cannot change. Much of our suffering comes from voluntary forcing to carry things that don’t need carrying. So lighten up by surrendering some of the load to a higher power.

“Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go.”
– Herman Hesse

3. Pay Attention to Little Things

Doing small things in a great way is an opportunity open to everyone in the present moment. Small acts have big impact, tidying up sets you up for success. Trimming your nails is a simple act of renewal. The little things are the big things. What little thing are you going to engage in with a big heart?

“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.”
– Arthur Ashe

4. Author Your Future

Take a moment to imagine what is possible for you within the next 6 months. What opportunities are you willing to take up on. Write down a strategic plan with specific actions. Set some SMART goals. Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Time Bound. Designing your future will provide confidence that you are in charge of your life and joy will inevitably be found.

“I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul”
– William Ernest Henley

5. Go To The Edge

The version of yourself that you are destined to be is on the other side of your comfort zone. Find the edge of your comfort, ask why you have set those boundaries and discover new worlds. On the edge you will feel truly alive, exhilarated and renewed. A constant rebuilding and polishing, a persistent joyful rebirth moment to moment. So meet that edge with gentle courage. Now isn’t that a joyful thing?

“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek”
– Joseph Campbell

6. Find Freedom

Too often we get too comfortable in limitations of our own making. Joy can be found in your freedom to discover yourself, your journey and your mission. Know your values, hold them close as you venture new worlds. Joy can be found in freedom.

“FREEDOM IS THE OPEN WINDOW THROUGH WHICH POURS THE SUNLIGHT OF THE HUMAN SPIRIT AND
HUMAN DIGNITY”
– Herbert Hoover

7. Live in the Moment

This is the heart of mindfulness. Bring yourself here. Listen to your breath. Scan sensations in the body. For each hour, spend 5 minutes to just be here. Nothing to change, nothing to do, just being. We are human beings after all, not human doings. You are here, just this. Just sitting. Practice this and notice the joy that is already in you. It has always been there we just need to intentionally live in the moment.

“Give yourself permission to allow this moment to be exactly as it is, and allow yourself to be exactly as you are.”
– Jon Kabat Zinn

8. Expand Your Awareness

Allow yourself to drop the story of “Me”, “mine” and “myself”. Your True self is beyond your persona and identity. When you let go of the story of “I need this to be such & such for happiness to happen”, You open up yourself to a majestic plane of consciousness where all is correct and dancing beautifully. Nature is one best tool for expanding the awareness. Try npr’s joy generator.

“We only know a tiny proportion about the complexity of the natural world. Wherever you look, there are still things we don’t know about and don’t understand. There are always new things to find out if you go looking for them.”
– David Attenborough

9. Envision The Best Outcome

Live in the positive expectancy of the best. Stay calm when things don’t go your way. Be not attached to the fruits of your labor. Just be consistent in acting as if the best has already happened. This is being pro active in creating inner joy first. There is also a concept called law of inverse transformation that I have learned from my favorite metaphysician Joseph Murphy.

“If a physical fact can produce a psychological state, a psychological state can produce a physical fact.”
– Joseph Murphy

10. Plan a Trip

It doesn’t need to be Paris or Tokyo. Just a change in environment to spice up your day to day. Take a long drive somewhere unusual. Maybe along the coastline or up in the mountains. Planning a trip creates something to look forward to. It is also a practice of designing your life. Plan ahead and be flexible to change. New places will bring forth dopamine and you will expand your domain of familiarity. Have a journal on hand because you might receive your aha moment as you cruise.

“Each day holds a surprise. But only if we expect it can we see, hear, or feel it when it comes to us. Let’s not be afraid to receive each day’s surprise, whether it comes to us as sorrow or as joy It will open a new place in our hearts, a place where we can welcome new friends and celebrate more fully our shared humanity.”
– Henri Nouwen

11. Accentuate what is Working

What has been working in your life? Too often we ruminate on the things that don’t work or what’s lacking. Take a deep breath and find Joy in what is working. See the fullness instead of the emptiness. What have been your strengths? Maybe they were the values you’ve been carrying all along, resilience, forbearance, endurance, adaptability. Focus on what works and be glad that it does. What joy to know this.

“Seeing everything just the way it is – that is the way to be within. If you see something other than what is there, it means you are contaminating the world with your opinions and prejudices.”
– Sadhguru

12. There is Joy in Humility

The difference between an intelligent person and a foolish person is that the intelligent one knows that he is foolish. Know that you do not know a thing. What our conscious mind thinks it knows is minuscule compared to how truly things are. Do you know how water works? How your consciousness work? Fire? Rocks? The Octopus? Walking this life with humility and reverence opens us up to joyful wonder. Like a child easily pleased.

“The key to knowing joy is being easily pleased.”
– Mark Nepo

13. Hit the Pause Button

Literally stop everything and just be. Notice the beauty that surrounds you. Recognize the life you have created so far. In practicing this habit of pausing, you are training your subconscious mind to intentionally find joy in little things that are already around and within you.

“He who can no longer pause to wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead; his eyes are closed.”
– Albert Einstein

14. Befriend the Mind

Too often we let our thinking rob us of our joy. Befriending the mind is setting healthy boundaries between your awareness and the minds chatter. Know that you are not your thoughts and you can let the mind wander to different places and viewpoints without losing your centeredness. When something unloveable arises from the mind, you are a friend who understands the nature of the mind. You say “thank you mind for these thoughts but I choose to stay here in my center, my peace, in this space lies your joy.

“Mindfulness is a way of befriending ourselves and our experience.“
– Jon Kabat Zinn

15. Maintain Balance

When everything is in balance, all is well and at ease. Stop the endless cycling of the mind. It is a predicting machine. It predicts the future and lives in the familiar past. Find joy in what is. Everything is neither good nor bad but our judgment makes it so. Maintain a balanced diet, exercise, human connection and creativity. Balance of the mind and heart; joy will ensue.

“Wisdom says we are nothing. Love says we are everything. Between these two our life flows”.
– Jack Kornfield

16. Be Solution Oriented & Trusting

Be the change you want to see, be part of the solution rather than the problem. Approach life and its complexities with courage and knowingness that all works out for the best. There is a solution to every problem and most of the time it is very simple and will get solved by leaving things be. Trust in the Dao. Try your best at helping the situation but know how to surrender to higher power as well. Knowing that you are not responsible for fixing everything is a joyful relief.

“There is a spiritual solution to every problem”
Dr. Wayne Dyer

17. Find Joy Being Alone

Whenever you are alone the easier it gets to connect to your higher self. To rejoice in all the life that is around you. This is the time where you can really just be yourself and observe what it’s like. Getting to know yourself without other people’s expectations. So find your favorite self care modality and feel free to indulge.

“Loneliness is the poverty of self; solitude is the richness of self.”
– May Sarton

18. Rejoice in the Success of Others

There is no limit to the pie. Other people’s success doesn’t mean shortage in yours. Play the game of collaboration instead of competition. Nobody needs to be beneath anybody. Status is a zero sum game, but wealth creation is a positive sum game according to Naval Ravikant. More information here. So celebrate other people’s success and think of how you can progress that success through your creative thinking.

See others as you see yourself. Salute the divinity of others as in yourself. Their success is your success. You are a player in this one big team of humanity.

“An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.”
– Martin Luther King Jr.

19. Experience the Sunrise

Not even the finest artist nor the most distinguished poet can paint and describe the beauty of a sunrise. A symbol of renewal, the dawning of consciousness, the beginning of life itself. Make an appointment to see the sunrise by yourself or with a loved one. It is the grandest of all art exhibits. It is free, it happens daily. All we gotta do is show up and tap into its indescribable joy.

“If you are in a beautiful place where you can enjoy sunrise and sunset, then you are living like a lord.”
– Nathan Philips

Conclusion

There are many ways in which we can cultivate inner joy. Knowing them is only the tip of the iceberg. Putting them to practice is where the fun really is. Play the game of Joy in your daily life and observe how things around you change for the better.

Mindfulness is a great practice to learn. It is the act of paying attention on purpose with no judgment. I have been fascinated with this modality for years now and here are some concepts that have greatly increased my peace, creativity and understanding.

Pick one thing that resonates and put it to practice. Reading and knowing is not enough, doing does the trick. So let’s get to it.

1. Have a set time for meditation.

Don’t get intimidated by the concept of meditation. Just like most things, it is really simple once you do it. Start small and easy, pick a time let’s say every 8:00am; sit with the spine erect and just breathe for 5 minutes. Observing the breath as it enters and exits the body. Notice sounds, feel the sensations of the hands, mind will wander but your awareness will bring it back to the breath.

Start with 5 minutes and increase that time in increments, like a muscle, your brain will develop and learn.

Track your improvements in the coming days.

“What you measure and record grows exponentially”
– Dr. Benjamin Hardy

“Wherever you are, be there totally.” – Eckhart Tolle

2. Watch Your Inner Speech

Become more aware of the quality of your presence. Kill the ANT as they say (automatic negative self talk). Negative self talk has been the default for the most of us but it doesn’t have to stay that way. Our subconscious might have been programmed when we were younger but with mindfulness we can easily discern what is good and what is bad, chucking the bad in the F$&* it bucket.

Become a selective sifter, only choosing what’s good and blessed.

Guard your inner speech, your self talk is limited to only what it experienced and therefore protective of its correctness. Listen to the deeper part of you, the Self, the Dao, your inner wisdom. Inner wisdom don’t chatter, it comes in whispers of acceptance, love and compassion. With deliberate practice, you will have a better relationship with the mind and inner voice.

3. Switch “I got to, to I get to”

If we approach our obligations and responsibilities with gratitude rather than complaining. You will have avoided lots of secondary suffering. The mind tends to inflate and exaggerate what really is and this habit of the mind causes the task at hand to be harder. But with a slight shift in perception like “I’m thankful that I’m bestowed this task of such and such that will help me in my growth” instead of “Oh geez, why do I have to do such and such I’d rather do this and that”.

“Wrapped in our nearest duty is the key
Which shall unlock for us the Heavenly Gate:
Unveiled, the Heavenly Vision he shall see,
Who cometh not too early nor too late.”
– GOETHE

So muster up the courage to wash the dishes and clean your room with no war in the heart.

4. See With Fresh Eyes

We tend to get overstimulated with our phones leaving desensitized. Use the tools but don’t let it use you. Taking things for granted, running on autopilot and constantly craving for low quality dopamine will leave you imbalanced and internally yearning for something real. Disconnect, practice silence and observe how you will see things anew. Maybe discover and rekindle those parts of you that were dormant until now that you looked at them with fresh new eyes.

5. Connect With People

We have learned how human connection is vital to our wellbeing. It increases Oxytocin in the body which is responsible for the dial action of blood vessels and lowering blood pressure. Make a habit of juggling your loved ones, hi fiving co leagues and maybe smiling and talking to your barista.

We all are so deeply interconnected; we have no option but to love all. Be kind and do good for any one and that will be reflected. The ripples of the kind heart are the highest blessings of the Universe.
– Amit Ray

6. Don’t Jump To Conclusions

Your mind is a time traveler and a constant predictor. It predicts what is going to happen next, it is a super creative imaginator, it imagines and conjures up mental pictures that aren’t real. It is a great gift to have this capability but we must know how to use it. Rather than training the mind you train your reactions to the mind’s nature to predict scenarios. Make it a habit to pause and let the moment just be what it is. Jumping to conclusions blocks new pathways for you to grow. Remember, you conclude and assume only from your past programming. Let go of the past and make way for the new.

In the space of a mindful pause, crucial information might rise up that will direct us in a more balanced direction. So take into account new information, cultivate a supportive growth mindset.

7. Smile Throughout The Body

It requires more muscles for us to frown rather than smile but some of us are more used to. Smile relaxes the face, brings forth relaxation all over the body and raises up the vibe of yourself and others. Practice intentional smiling, make it your default mode of being.

A genuine smile distributes the cosmic current, Prana to every body cell.The happy man is less subject to disease, for happiness actually attracts into the body a greater supply of the Universal life energy.
– Paramahansa Yogananda

Hope these simple steps help you in creating a more mindful day. May you be open to new things, ready for happy surprises carrying a bright smile along the way.

Thanks for being here! Namaste. 🙏

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Our minds are designed to see the negative, calculate, predict what is going to happen. It is hard wired due to programming and its journey towards self preservation. Not knowing how to manage our overthinking mind will lead to its own demise. Anxiety, confusion, fear and all other negative mental states can be avoided with simple insights to remember.

1. 3 Deep Mindful Breaths

Bringing your attention to your breath automatically shifts your nervous system from sympathetic to parasympathetic. It shifts from tense and stressed to rest and digest. In these 3 deep mindful breaths you affirm that all is well, you bring your attention where your true power lies, the now. So keep this tool in mind, all throughout the day make time to pause and take 3 deep mindful breaths, an opportunity to recenter, look again and cultivate a positive mindset.

2. Body Scan

Bring attention to parts of the body and intentionality blow relaxation upon them. We tend to store emotional tension on the hips and shoulders. Take a moment to untense starting from the feet going up to the crown of the head. Train the mind and utilize its power to focus. In here we are focusing attention in certain parts of the body and softening them, exhaling through them and returning them to ease and balance. The mind can be commanded to disperse its attention as far wide as the galaxy and to focus its attention to the tiniest of atoms. In this practice, by the power of awareness we focus the minds attention to each cell of your body, allowing it to renew and relax to its natural state.

3. Nature Immersion

Nature is our greatest teacher. We came out from it and manifesting through it. Overthinking is caused by the delusion of separateness from the one true source of all life. The life that is happening that is you, your story, your identity is only a minuscule part of what is really happening. Take a walk in nature and tap into the feeling of the vastness of the sky and the groundedness of the mountains, the lightness of the birds and the depth of the ocean. Listen to nature and become more a part of it. There is a higher order going on unfailingly and your tiny existence is a part of it, being a part of such grand intelligence cultivates faith and knowingness that I am and You are safe.

4. Brain Dump

Much as you do a morning digestive system dump, same goes for your brain. Our minds are sensitive receptors of data, you might have been carrying debilitating thoughts in your head since you were 7. In this brain dumping practice, you release clutter in your head, things that have been bugging you, things that inspire you and everything in between. Mindfully jot down these concepts in your head on paper or on your journal. Treat them as files that need to be transferred in an external drive. Once it is out of your head and on paper, you can asses on how you will go about it; Accept, change or delete completely.

5. Pattern Disruption

Maybe you got comfortable in being stressed and being a overthinking worrier. We tend to get attached to what we know and tend to repeat it over and over till it becomes a habit. Make sure your habits are nourishing and helps you get closer to the future-self of your ideal. If in a loop of bad habits, disrupt that pattern by doing some slight changes in your schedule, maybe take the scenic route, listen to new music, or try out a new yoga practice. There is always an opportunity to look at old things in a new way. If your days are feeling stale, give it a good stir and introduce some new spices and get psyched on new flavors that life can bring.

6. Identify Thought Patterns

Sit in a quiet undisturbed place away from your demanding responsibilities. Maybe a corner in a living room, an altar, a place of serenity and solitude. In this minute of silence notice the quietness, realize that the noise that is keeping you running tired hither and tithed is a voice inside your head. It is normal, we all have voices in our heads trying to persuade us what is best for us. But in this practice, you bring attention to the awareness of the voice, listen to the voice and become really inquisitive of its chattering. With your greater awareness you can easily Identify the egos pattern. It is usually running away from something, protecting its correctness and is just afraid to love. Notice the pattern of your thoughts and know the roots of its behavior. Knowing this you can move on with actions that lead to more compassion and more harmonized with the greater good.

7. See The Bigger Picture

Affirm to yourself that out of this situation only good can come. Anything that is causing us to overthink is our lack of willingness to accept or take responsibility of what is bestowed upon us. Anything that happens to us is for us, everything that happens to you is for you. It is the way we see things that we need to work on, not the thing itself because “the bigger picture is just is” and “you are just another one of those”.

8. Acknowledge Past Victories

Like practicing gratitude it is really helpful to relive your past successes that brought you here. Take time to meditate on the hardest lowest point in your life and remember the version of yourself who took the situation by the horn and took charge to solve the problem no matter how painful it was. Pain is what builds our character, through pain we were born, through suffering we learn and after all of that to Love we shall return. You maybe in a position in your life where you are complacent, maybe it is time to run towards something bigger carrying all the skills and strength we built up in the past. From a psychological point of view time is not linear, it is holistic, meaning you are now all of what you learned and about to become. You are the whole package with endless features. You contain multitudes. Acknowledge your past successes will bring you more of it.

9. Enter Flow State

Flow state happens when you are fully engaged in a specific activity for a specific period of time. In this state, mind stops to overthink and will have become fully immersed in the thing you are doing. Flow state increases productivity by 400% and you get to be truly alive. Flow state happens on the edge of your capability, challenging enough that you are not stressed, and easy enough that you are not bored. So find an activity where in you can tap into flow, drawing, running, playing an instrument, finishing a task. Small mundane tasks are also a gateway to flow state, dishes, laundry, de cluttering and tidying up. It is up to you! What are you gonna flow with today?

10. Positive Reframing

We discussed previously that it is not the thing that bothers us but it is how we perceive and feel about that causes the problem. Positive reframing helps us gain un understanding that there are always two sides of the coin. The law of polarity says so, notice when the negative mindset is getting the best of you. Notice and observe we’re you focus your attention, for where your attention is focused on the more of that the mind creates. You can also go the midway path of the Dao which is all is neither a fortune nor a misfortune, it just is. From that state of equilibrium channel your energies to what positive key aspects of the certain situation has. You have the capability to reframe or counteract a thought with a more positive, nourishing, life affirming set of lenses. Notice, settle in the midst of it and refocus on the good side.

11. Set S.M.A.R.T. Goals

In your silent self reflection, listen to your inner guide. In this space of inner awareness, set Audacious goals. Put them on paper and set daily Smart goals. It needs to be Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time bound. Being clear on your purpose, knowing your “why”, being persistent in daily actions to its attainment will leave you no time to overthink because you are in constant motion flowing towards the becoming of the Self you imagined. Overthinking is a privilege and luxury that we are tempted to be in. Get down on what you are about and get going, do not be afraid because for sure you will fail and will be wrong but you will be stumbling towards the right direction. Look up Carl Jung’s Circumambulation of the soul, we will never arrive or finish as long as we are breathing we are always in an end and a beginning of something malleable circling around the northern star. What you create daily is up to you, towards your northern star or away from it. With SMART goals may you flow your way with balance and ease. Nurturing and discovering, making and breaking, developing a thick skin along the way.

12. Have An Attitude Of Gratitude

Our minds tend to have a negativity bias, this is due to our nature to self preserve. Notice this pattern of the mind to see the negative and focus on the positive through gratitude. In silent meditation name 3 things you are grateful for, it can be as simple as another day, to as specific and complex as your hero’s journey. Switch your “I got to’s” to “I get to” perceive things that you have to do as opportunities to cultivating a better world. This is where you put on your big picture glasses, I get to take care of things around me, I get to nurture my curiosities educate myself and equip myself with skills that will make my uniqueness shine and contribute. Practice gratitude for knowing the laws of mind, be thankful that you are capable of unselfish performance of duties, unwavering rectitude and unlimited forgiveness. Each and every hour of the day, a lot 1 minute to thank divine intelligence that we are still here.

13. Go Back To “Why”

Overthinking tends to make us feel that we are in charge and tricks us in thinking that we are helping the situation. Take a step back, zoom out and go back to “Why” you are ruminating on this specific thing. Maybe you are protecting something, maybe you are scared to lose something, maybe you want to be the best at something. Go to the root of why and gain a greater perspective and maybe a solution will pop up. Maybe in shifting your attention to the core values of your purpose will help a new way of arriving at the situation come to be. Most things can be bypassed and are of little or of no importance. Go back to your why and the how will come to you.

14. Identify and Deploy

Identify problem and deploy solution. Get specific on what you are ruminating on. Is it a pending loss of something? Is it overthinking on ways on how circumstances will be? You can think all you want but the mind won’t be satisfied until bless you master it. One way of handling overthinking is to identify what specific thing you are worried about, lay out possible scenarios, after this you can even get simpler. Narrow it down to either it will or it won’t. Is it yes or no? Make up your mind in 90 seconds. Be decisive and keep a positive mental attitude no matter how uncomfortable it may seem. We lose good things to make space for better ones. If you are unwilling to change, nature will do it for you, so it is better to get flexible, adaptable and capable. Let us approach life rather than avoid it. So once you know what you need to do, just do it with a smile and a little positivity.

15. Access Peace From Mind

We are often presented with the concept of peace of mind but it is impossible for the mind to get peaceful, it’s very nature is to dissect and know and to be uneasy and unsettled in the present. The real trick is to become aware of the mind. Become aware of its automated generation of thoughts and know that these thoughts don’t have any power unless our awareness choose to be emotional about a certain thing. Know that you only bring power to thoughts through your attention so be a selective sifter, only choose to put attention to thoughts that are of help to you and others.

16. Exposure Therapy

Exposure therapy is one of the Cognitive Behavioral Therapy techniques that is very effective. Expose your self to that thing that triggers you and the innate intelligence will adapt and won’t be bothered no more. Chose to face what makes you overthink, the intensity of the anxiety will heighten immensely but will die down immediately. Expose your self to cold and you won’t be cold, expose your self to public speaking and you won’t be afraid no more. It is best to choose to expose yourself to things that you need work on, than being pushed by nature and circumstances external to you. Intrinsic motivation to face what is needed to be dealt with develops your character rather than waiting too long and being forced by need to face a certain situation. An example would be I am intrinsically motivated to lift weights to feel strong rather than a need to lift weights because the doctor prescribed me to do so. I think we both prefer the prior one.

17. Self Coaching

If you are the personality type that doesn’t want to be told what to do, this one is for you. There’s no other person in the world that knows who you really are and what you want other than you. Be accountable and responsible for where you are going in life, destinies and meaning is not handed down to you, it must come from you. Gather the tools you need and structure a day to day with yourself being accountable. Start small, you can start by walking daily, meditating, cleaning, getting clear on your goals. Hold your self accountable and track your progress.

18. Practice Imagining

Visualize your ideal self, paint a clear mental picture of how you want the problem solved. Visualize your creativity shine. Your mind is practicing its great powers by overthinking, overthinking is already imagining scenarios right? So might as well imagine all the good things that you want and desire! What you put attention to grows!

19. Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway

Overthinking is going through all the variables regarding a certain scenario. Here is the reality, there is no end to the combinations of possibilities that might happen. You are over analyzing something because you are scared or you are hiding behind the intellect but the real truth is you just might be plain scared. There is an anti dote to this. Feel the fear and do it anyway, in doing so you’ll find that overcoming what you are afraid of is what will get you to the next level of your journey.

20. Set Deadlines

Compressing the timeframe will help you make a snap decision. A lotting 90 seconds to deal with a certain matter gets it solved in 90 seconds although not completely but it will take the issue up onto the next phase. So intend those segments in your day. Commit 1 hour to tidying up, 30 minutes of cardio, 15 minutes on deciding what to cook. Learning to set deadlines will create a version of you who takes action. The type who finishes tasks, getting things done, always start small maybe just decluttering your reactions to your thoughts.

21. Start Early

Setting a morning routine sets your day up for success. Knowing what you will do the day before leaves you no time for overthinking. You will be too busy becoming towards the life of your dreams. Here is a quick structure of a morning for you. Practice silence, then next minute gratitude, then next minute visualize the day, 39 minutes cardio l, 10 minute journal, carry an affirmation Al through out the day such as, “Today I shall manifest creativity within me and I am open to opportunities where my talents will be utilized”. “Today I’m open to surprises” this will get impressed to the subconscious mind and will reflect upon your daily affairs. So affirm your power first thing by practicing these self empowering tools.

22. Be Here Now

Yes it is an Oasis Album and a Ramdass book but let us not underestimate this powerful phrase. The whole essence of Zen, Mindfulness and Yoga is this. To be here now is to be where life is, all suffering and pain is either remembered or anticipated meaning they are not really here. Sit for a moment and be here, letting go of what is passed, letting go of what is to come and just be this. Sitting breathing, thoughts rising, dissolving. Not needing to make anything happen. Not needing to chance things in a certain way. Just this. Resting, relaxing and letting be. This will surely rid of overthinking for you will realize it’s futility compared to just this.

23. Take It Slow

Think of your mind as a machine automatically presenting thoughts. Your brain runs on different brain waves, delta when asleep, theta / alpha semi awake this is where intuition, subconscious and conscious overlap. At beta your waking state, the brain is vibing at a high speed that if you act on its every whim you will definitely burn out. There is no need to match the pace of your thoughts. Your awareness can be slowed down by slowing the breath and becoming awareness and knowing that you are not your thoughts. Do things gently at a slow pace. Increase the space between stimulus and response is my favorite. Watch the spaces. Observe the emptiness and feel its fullness. Wait and let spirit move you rather than the ego.

24. Become The Observer

Will I, won’t I, This or that, here or there. There is no end to the choices and variables the mind can ruminate on. Pondering the problem is one of the mind’s favorites. Accept that the mind overthinks and with practice you will be used to being the observer of the mind. Your awareness is separate from the thinking mind, think of it as a multimedia player playing an endless montage of best of’s and what could haves and what ifs. You are just an observer of that motion picture. Initially you will have a hard time watching thoughts because of your habit of associating with each thought that arises. But through practice of disassociation, engaging not entangling, knowing the truth of the nature of the mind. You have entered the world of the observer and will have a good relationship and will be able to utilize the brilliant powers of the mind. As you observe, you get to pick what thought forms you will bring attention to. Let the mind overthink, let the heart beat, you are awareness and the observer, the one who selects and creates life through disciplined wise choices.

25. Read The Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
and Wisdom to know the difference.

This prayer was written by American theologian Reinhold Niebuhr and popularized by Alcoholics Anonymous. This prayer sets things in perspective. It categorizes things you can change which you can act upon, and things you can’t change where in you practice acceptance and letting go.

26. Take A Cold Shower

I read from my favorite author Stuart Wilde that goes along the lines of “Throw yourself in the river at 4:00am each day, that should fix the ego pronto”. If you engage your ego in something it doesn’t want you immediately disempower it. Plus enjoy the many benefits of cold exposure. A very good tool to disrupt the pattern of over thinking.

27. Do Not Mind What Happens Next

This one is inspired by Krishnamurti. Either it will or it won’t. Your peace is not deep upon conditions. May your peace be as deep as the ocean and as sturdy as the mountains. You are eternal, immortal universal and infinite. So the next time you find the squirrel eating produce in your garden let him and thank him for blessing you with his presence, his squirrel time is precious too you know. Not minding what happens next keeps you open for miracles and opportunities. Let go of rigid expectations and start to open a new world right now.