Introduction: Why Dr. Julie Gurner Changed Executive Performance Forever
“Do not wait for a coronation. The greatest Emperors Crown themselves. This has never been more true—you get to decide.”
This powerful message from Dr. Julie Gurner, the executive performance coach compared to Wendy Rhoades from “Billions” by The Wall Street Journal, captures the essence of her revolutionary approach to high performance. If you’ve ever felt limited by invisible rules, struggled to reach your full potential despite talent, or wondered what separates the top 1% from everyone else, Dr. Gurner’s work provides answers.
Unlike traditional executive coaches who focus solely on skills and strategies, Dr. Gurner—a Doctor of Psychology—combines deep psychological expertise with over 14 years of experience coaching some of the world’s top CEOs, founders, executives, and athletes in finance, technology, and competitive sports. Her Ultra Successful newsletter reaches over 40,000 subscribers weekly with insights pulled directly from her work with elite performers.
What makes Dr. Gurner’s approach transformative is her willingness to challenge conventional wisdom. She teaches clients to break imaginary rules, set unreasonably high standards, crown themselves rather than wait for permission, and channel every emotion—including anger and agitation—as fuel for success.
This comprehensive guide explores Dr. Julie Gurner’s complete philosophy, the principles from her Ultra Successful framework, insights from her podcast appearances on The Knowledge Project and other shows, and how you can apply her executive performance psychology to achieve outlier results.
Who Is Dr. Julie Gurner?
Full Name: Dr. Julie Gurner
Credentials: Doctor of Psychology (Psy.D.)
Company: Gurner LLC
Known For: Ultra Successful newsletter, executive performance coaching for top 1% performers
Comparison: “Wendy Rhoades of Billions” (Wall Street Journal)
Clients: Fortune 500 executives, tech CEOs, finance leaders, professional athletes
Dr. Julie Gurner is a doctor of psychology and nationally recognized executive performance coach specializing in working with high-performing individuals and teams in fast-paced, hyper-competitive environments—particularly in technology and finance sectors.
Her Background and Journey
Early Career:
Dr. Gurner’s path to executive coaching was unconventional. After completing her doctorate in psychology, she worked in the maximum-security prison system, an experience that gave her unique insights into human behavior, motivation, and what drives people at extreme ends of the spectrum.
This background in clinical psychology, combined with her fascination with peak performers, led her to transition into tech advising and eventually launch her executive coaching practice.
Building Gurner LLC:
For over 14 years, Dr. Gurner has worked one-on-one with:
- Tech CEOs and founders navigating hypergrowth
- Finance executives making high-stakes decisions
- Professional athletes optimizing performance
- Top-percentile talent seeking competitive edges
Each private client receives approximately 15 hours of Dr. Gurner’s time monthly, including process design, in-person meetings, and follow-ups—creating intensive, bespoke coaching tailored to individual goals.
The Ultra Successful Newsletter:
Launched on Substack, Ultra Successful has grown to 40,000+ subscribers, making it one of the most influential executive performance newsletters. Each Monday, Dr. Gurner shares:
- Concepts and frameworks from her client work
- Psychological insights on high performance
- Actionable challenges to implement immediately
- Patterns observed in top 1% performers
Media and Recognition:
- Compared to Wendy Rhoades from “Billions” by The Wall Street Journal
- Featured on The Knowledge Project podcast with Shane Parrish (2 episodes)
- Guest on numerous podcasts including The Learning Leader Show, CamBro Conversations, and more
- Develops “Forging Titans,” a course on achieving outlier leadership
Her Philosophy: Reverse Engineering Success
Dr. Gurner’s core belief: “Is there a pattern of thought, behavior, and action that threads through the top 1% in a given field? Can absolute success be reverse engineered? I think so.”
Her work identifies the psychological patterns, daily decisions, and incremental habits that catapult a small fraction to the very top—then teaches those patterns to others willing to break conventional rules.
The 50+ Most Powerful Dr. Julie Gurner Life Lessons
ON SELF-BELIEF AND INTERNAL REFERENCE
1. Crown Yourself—Don’t Wait for Permission
“Do not wait for a coronation. The greatest Emperors Crown themselves. This has never been more true—you get to decide.”
Most people wait for external validation before attempting ambitious goals. Ultra successful people grant themselves permission. They crown themselves.
Key Takeaway: Stop waiting for someone to anoint you as worthy. Decide you’re ready, capable, and deserving—then act from that belief.
2. Reference Internally, Not Externally
“Successful people don’t really look outside of themselves to see what they can do. They know internally. And they reference internally what they feel they are capable of, and they can really stand in that.”
Average performers constantly check external markers to gauge their potential. Elite performers have an internal compass that tells them what they’re capable of, regardless of others’ opinions.
Key Takeaway: Develop internal reference points for your capabilities. Trust your own sense of what’s possible rather than limiting yourself to what others think you can do.
3. You Can Be Your Own Hype Beast
“You can be your own biggest critic and drag yourself into the mud. Or you can be your own kind of hype beast.”
Self-talk either propels you forward or holds you back. You choose whether your internal voice is your greatest advocate or your harshest critic.
Key Takeaway: Become your own motivator. Use self-talk to energize, encourage, and push yourself forward rather than tearing yourself down.
4. The Bias to Action Separates Winners from Dreamers
“That person is doing so well and they’re not as smart as I am, they’re not as creative or talented as I am—but what they have is execution.”
Intelligence and talent mean nothing without execution. The distinguishing feature of high performers is their bias toward action rather than endless planning.
Key Takeaway: Stop overthinking. Start executing. Imperfect action beats perfect planning every time.
ON BREAKING IMAGINARY RULES
5. Most People Live by Imaginary Rules
“There are imaginary rules that everybody lives by. It shapes their world, what they try for and what they think… Most people are capable of far more than they imagine themselves to be.”
From childhood, we internalize rules about what’s possible, appropriate, or realistic. These rules are often arbitrary but powerfully limiting.
Key Takeaway: Identify the invisible rules constraining you. Question whether they’re real or just mental constructs you can choose to ignore.
6. Break the Rules—They’re Not For You
Ultra successful people don’t ignore all rules—they discern which rules are universal (physics, ethics) versus which are social constructs that don’t apply to them.
Key Takeaway: Challenge conventional wisdom. Just because “everyone” does something a certain way doesn’t mean it’s the best or only way.
7. Playing by the Rules Only Serves Your Competition
“Keeping your head down only serves your competition.”
Traditional advice to “be humble,” “wait your turn,” and “keep your head down” might work in stable, hierarchical environments. In competitive fields, it guarantees you’ll be overtaken.
Key Takeaway: In the age of social media and rapid change, visibility and self-promotion are strategic necessities, not vanity.
ON SETTING HIGH STANDARDS
8. Set Unreasonably High Standards for Yourself
Dr. Gurner coaches clients to set standards that seem unreasonable to others—because unreasonable standards produce unreasonable results.
Key Takeaway: Your standards determine your ceiling. If you set “reasonable” standards, you’ll achieve mediocre results. Ultra successful people have what others consider excessive standards.
9. The Consequences of High Standards
From Knowledge Project Episode 172: “High standards create consequences—for you and for others around you.”
When you operate at a higher level, you inadvertently create pressure on your relationships, teams, and environment. Managing this is part of achieving excellence.
Key Takeaway: High standards aren’t free. Be prepared to manage the friction they create while maintaining them anyway.
10. Don’t Base Your Identity on What You Do
From Knowledge Project Episode 172: “The dangers of basing your identity on what you do.”
When your entire self-worth derives from professional achievement, any setback threatens your entire sense of self. This creates fragility.
Key Takeaway: Build identity on character, values, and who you are as a person—not just your accomplishments. This creates antifragile self-esteem.
ON EMOTIONS AS FUEL
11. Channel All Emotions as Fuel for Success
Dr. Gurner teaches that every emotion—including anger, fear, and sadness—can be channeled productively toward your goals rather than suppressed or avoided.
Key Takeaway: Don’t waste energy suppressing emotions. Convert emotional energy into action energy. Anger can fuel determination; fear can fuel preparation.
12. Haunting Agitation Can Drive Ultra Success
Many high performers experience what Dr. Gurner calls “haunting agitation”—a persistent internal drive or dissatisfaction that propels them forward.
Key Takeaway: If you feel restless dissatisfaction even when successful, you’re not broken—you’re wired for higher achievement. Channel that agitation productively.
13. How to Overcome Emotions on Bad Days
From Knowledge Project Episode 172: “How to overcome emotions on days where things go wrong.”
Dr. Gurner’s six-step formula helps process emotional hits quickly so they don’t derail your day or week.
Key Takeaway: Have a systematic process for handling emotional setbacks. Don’t let bad moments become bad days or bad weeks.
ON CARING DEEPLY AND CHALLENGING DIRECTLY
14. People Can Take Hard Feedback from People in Their Corner
“People can take hard feedback from people that they know are in their corner.”
This is the foundation of Dr. Gurner’s coaching philosophy: care deeply about clients, then challenge them directly because they know it comes from genuine investment in their success.
Key Takeaway: Build trust first, then deliver difficult truths. Caring deeply earns you the right to challenge directly.
15. Fighting Up Front Prevents Fights Later
“The notion of fighting upfront is [that] if you do it right, it shouldn’t be a fight. It should be something that you address early, as quickly as possible.”
Address issues immediately while they’re small rather than letting them fester into major conflicts.
Key Takeaway: Have the hard conversation today rather than the catastrophic blowup tomorrow. Early intervention prevents escalation.
16. How to Have Hard Conversations
From Knowledge Project Episode 172: Dr. Gurner’s strategies for preparing before confronting someone:
- Clarify your actual goal (resolution, not being right)
- Separate fact from story
- Consider their perspective genuinely
- Focus on behavior, not character
Key Takeaway: Preparation determines outcome in difficult conversations. Go in with clarity and genuine intent to resolve, not just to vent.
ON RELATIONSHIPS AND PARTNERSHIPS
17. Your Life Partner Determines Your Fiscal Success
“The person you spend your life with is one of the most important decisions of your life… this person is going to determine not only a lot of your personal happiness, but they’re going to determine a lot of your fiscal success.”
Your spouse or life partner either accelerates or inhibits your professional success through their support, values, and approach to life.
Key Takeaway: Choose a life partner as carefully as you’d choose a business partner. This decision impacts every area of your life.
18. Similarities Stay Together, Not Opposites
“What we know from research is that similarities stay together. So you want somebody who is as similar to you in kind of almost any variable you can think of.”
The “opposites attract” myth damages relationships. Long-term success comes from fundamental alignment.
Key Takeaway: Seek partners similar in values, ambition level, communication style, and life vision. Surface-level differences are fine; deep differences are fatal.
19. How to End Toxic Relationships
From Knowledge Project Episode 172: “How to end toxic relationships” and “Red flags to look for in bad relationships.”
Dr. Gurner emphasizes that tolerating toxic relationships drains energy from productive pursuits. Cutting them off creates space for growth.
Key Takeaway: Toxic relationships have opportunity costs. Every hour spent managing dysfunction is an hour not spent building success.
ON COGNITIVE PATTERNS AND MENTAL FRAMEWORKS
20. How to Get Out of Cognitive Ruts
From Knowledge Project Episode 172: “How to get out of ‘cognitive ruts’”—patterns of thinking that keep producing the same results.
Breaking cognitive ruts requires deliberately disrupting your patterns through new environments, questions, and frameworks.
Key Takeaway: If you keep getting the same results, you’re stuck in a cognitive rut. Change your thinking patterns, not just your actions.
21. Remove Blindspots in Life and Work
From Knowledge Project Episode 172: “How to remove blindspots in life and work.”
Blindspots—things we can’t see about ourselves—limit growth. Dr. Gurner uses 360-degree feedback and stakeholder interviews to reveal them.
Key Takeaway: You can’t fix what you can’t see. Systematically hunt for blindspots through feedback from people who see you differently than you see yourself.
22. The Secret Advantages of Boredom
“There are secret advantages you can unlock through boredom.”
In constant stimulation, your brain never reaches the state that produces breakthrough insights. Boredom creates space for creativity and deep thinking.
Key Takeaway: Schedule boredom. Put away devices, resist filling every moment, and let your mind wander. Your best ideas emerge in empty space.
23. Social Validation Is Not the Goal
“Most people will fear failure not because it’s failure, but because of other people seeing them fail.”
The fear of public failure—not failure itself—stops most people from attempting ambitious goals.
Key Takeaway: Detach your ego from others’ opinions. Most people are too busy with their own lives to care about your failures anyway.
ON EXECUTIVE COACHING AND PERFORMANCE
24. Top Executives Want to Work on Themselves, Not Just Strategy
When CEOs hire Dr. Gurner, they rarely want help with business strategy—they want help with self-limiting beliefs, ego management, communication, and personal effectiveness.
Key Takeaway: The bottleneck in most executives’ success is internal (psychology, habits, beliefs) rather than external (strategy, market conditions).
25. The Problem with Psychological Tests
“Many psychological tests can be flawed in their application to high-stakes executive coaching.”
Standard personality assessments often miss what matters for peak performance and can create limiting labels.
Key Takeaway: Don’t let test results define your potential. They’re tools, not truth. Many ultra successful people would test as “unsuitable” for their roles.
26. The Limits of Stoicism for High Performers
“The fallacy of Stoicism”—a purely stoic approach may not be the most effective for high performers.
While emotional regulation matters, complete detachment can dull the competitive edge and passion that fuel exceptional achievement.
Key Takeaway: Balance emotional intelligence with emotional intensity. You need fire to achieve at the highest levels, not just equanimity.
27. Sweet Spot Between Talking and Listening
“A great executive coach gives their clients space to talk. They listen. They ask great follow-up questions. They help unlock people. They help them become multipliers.”
Coaching isn’t about telling clients what to do—it’s about creating space for them to discover their own answers through powerful questions.
Key Takeaway: The best coaches draw out insights rather than impose them. Questions unlock more than answers.
ON STORYTELLING AND SELF-NARRATIVE
28. You’re Not Understanding Your Own Story
“You probably have the ability, but you’re not understanding your own story.”
Many people have the capability but don’t recognize their own narrative arc or potential because they’re stuck in limiting interpretations of their past.
Key Takeaway: Reframe your story. The same facts can support a narrative of limitation or potential depending on interpretation.
29. Keep Taking Chances and Meeting the Moment
Dr. Gurner helps clients rewrite their narratives from “things happen to me” to “I create my life through choices and actions.”
Key Takeaway: You’re the author of your story, not just a character. Every day you’re writing the next chapter through your decisions.
ON SUCCESS PRINCIPLES
30. Success Can Be Reverse Engineered
“Is there a pattern of thought, behavior, and action that threads through the top 1% in a given field? Can absolute success be reverse engineered? I think so.”
This is the foundation of Dr. Gurner’s entire approach—identifying patterns in elite performers and teaching them to others.
Key Takeaway: Success isn’t mysterious or luck-based. It follows patterns. Learn the patterns, adopt them, get the results.
31. Execution Beats Talent
Intelligence, creativity, and talent matter far less than consistent execution. The person who ships beats the genius who doesn’t.
Key Takeaway: Stop optimizing for perfect. Start shipping. Execution compounds; planning doesn’t.
32. What Success Actually Means
From Knowledge Project Episode 172: “What success is for Dr. Gurner.”
Success isn’t external achievements—it’s the freedom to do meaningful work with people you respect, on your own terms.
Key Takeaway: Define success for yourself rather than adopting society’s definition. Then build your life accordingly.
33. Relentlessly Resourceful
Dr. Gurner identifies “relentless resourcefulness” as a core trait of her most successful clients—they find ways forward regardless of obstacles.
Key Takeaway: When you hit a wall, successful people find a door, dig under, climb over, or go around. Obstacles are puzzles, not stop signs.
ON DAILY PRACTICES AND HABITS
34. The Power of Daily Walks
Dr. Gurner walks her farm daily for reflection, synthesis, and thinking. This unplugged time is non-negotiable.
Key Takeaway: Build daily rituals for thinking without devices. Your best insights emerge away from screens.
35. The Six-Step Formula for Emotional Resilience
From Ultra Successful newsletter: Dr. Gurner’s six-step process for handling setbacks so they don’t linger:
- Acknowledge the emotion
- Name it specifically
- Determine if action is needed now
- If no, schedule time to address it
- If yes, take immediate action
- Move forward
Key Takeaway: Don’t let emotional hits spiral. Process them systematically and move on quickly.
ON BUILDING HIGH-PERFORMANCE TEAMS
36. Developing High-Performance Cultures
Dr. Gurner specializes in building cultures where:
- Ownership is the norm
- Leadership is distributed
- High standards are shared
- Feedback flows freely
Key Takeaway: Culture isn’t about perks—it’s about psychological patterns that enable or inhibit performance.
37. Teams Need Clarity More Than Motivation
Most underperforming teams don’t lack motivation—they lack clarity about priorities, roles, and standards.
Key Takeaway: Before trying to motivate, clarify. Clear expectations create alignment, which creates results.
ON PERSONAL PRODUCTIVITY AND FOCUS
38. Improving Personal Productivity and Focus
Dr. Gurner’s productivity framework emphasizes:
- Ruthless prioritization (top 3 matters, everything else doesn’t)
- Time blocking for deep work
- Elimination before optimization
- Energy management over time management
Key Takeaway: Productivity isn’t about doing more—it’s about doing fewer things that matter more.
39. Decision-Making Strategies for High Stakes
From Knowledge Project: Dr. Gurner’s decision framework:
- Separate reversible from irreversible decisions
- Make reversible decisions fast
- Make irreversible decisions with appropriate deliberation
- Set decision deadlines to prevent analysis paralysis
Key Takeaway: Match decision speed to decision stakes. Most decisions should be made faster than you think.
ON BURNOUT AND RECOVERY
40. Curing Burnout Isn’t About Rest Alone
Burnout stems from misalignment, not just overwork. Recovery requires:
- Realigning work with values
- Restoring sense of control
- Rebuilding confidence
- Reconnecting to purpose
Key Takeaway: You can’t rest your way out of burnout if the underlying misalignment remains. Fix the root cause, not just the symptom.
41. Building Confidence in Executives
Confidence isn’t built through affirmations—it’s built through:
- Small wins stacked consistently
- Competence development
- Positive self-talk patterns
- Taking action despite fear
Key Takeaway: Confidence follows action, it doesn’t precede it. Do the thing, build the confidence.
ON LEADERSHIP AND INFLUENCE
42. Emphasizing Ownership in Leadership
Dr. Gurner’s clients develop extreme ownership—taking responsibility for outcomes regardless of circumstances.
Key Takeaway: Leaders who blame circumstances stay stuck. Leaders who own outcomes find solutions.
43. The Importance of Being Impartial
Through 360-degree feedback, Dr. Gurner provides penetrating, impartial insights that internal stakeholders can’t or won’t share.
Key Takeaway: You need someone with no agenda telling you the truth. That’s what great coaches provide.
ON ACHIEVING OUTLIER RESULTS
44. Forging Titans Course
Dr. Gurner’s upcoming course “Forging Titans: Achieving Outlier Leadership” focuses on:
- Deep self-examination
- Personal growth for leadership
- Up-leveling leadership skills
- Creating multiplier effects
Key Takeaway: Outlier results require outlier development. Average personal growth produces average outcomes.
45. Working in Fast-Paced, High-Pressure Environments
Dr. Gurner’s specialty is helping clients thrive in:
- Hypergrowth startups
- Trading floors
- Professional sports
- Any domain where elite performance is required
Key Takeaway: High-pressure environments require different psychology than stable, predictable ones. Learn to thrive in chaos, not just manage it.
ON CONTINUOUS IMPROVEMENT
46. What Dr. Gurner Learned That Made Her Life Different
From Knowledge Project Episode 172: The insights from her work that transformed her own life—primarily around setting boundaries, challenging directly, and refusing to tolerate mediocrity.
Key Takeaway: The coach learns as much as the client. Teaching forces clarity on what actually works.
47. How to Become an Absolute Monster at Life
From various podcast appearances: “Absolute monsters” at life:
- Set standards others consider crazy
- Execute relentlessly
- Refuse excuses (including their own)
- Channel all energy toward goals
- Never settle for “good enough”
Key Takeaway: Exceptional results require exceptional commitment. Decide what level you’re willing to play at, then commit fully.
ON WORKING WITH DR. GURNER
48. One-on-One Consulting Is Intensive and Bespoke
“One-on-one consulting is intensive, tailored to your goals like a bespoke suit, and delivers unmatched results.”
Each client engagement includes:
- 15 hours monthly of Dr. Gurner’s time
- In-depth stakeholder interviews
- 360-degree review feedback
- Custom action plans
- Ongoing follow-up and refinement
Key Takeaway: High-level coaching isn’t one-size-fits-all. It’s customized to your specific situation, goals, and challenges.
49. Speaking and Keynotes
Dr. Gurner delivers keynotes, fireside chats, and Q&As on:
- High-performance psychology
- Building elite teams
- Leadership development
- Breaking through plateaus
Key Takeaway: The insights from individual coaching translate to team and organizational transformation.
50. How to Hire Dr. Gurner
Visit drgurner.com to learn about:
- One-on-one coaching availability
- Corporate consulting
- Speaking engagements
- The Ultra Successful newsletter
Key Takeaway: Access to Dr. Gurner’s insights starts with the free newsletter and can scale to intensive one-on-one engagement.
Ultra Successful Newsletter: The Weekly Dose of Peak Performance
Ultra Successful is Dr. Gurner’s Substack newsletter reaching 40,000+ subscribers every Monday with insights on achieving outlier success.
What You Get Each Week
Psychological Insights:
Concepts from behavioral psychology, neuroscience, and performance research applied to real-world achievement.
Client Patterns:
Anonymized observations from Dr. Gurner’s work with elite CEOs, founders, and executives—what works, what doesn’t, and why.
Actionable Challenges:
Specific exercises and practices you can implement immediately to improve performance.
Mental Models:
Frameworks for thinking about common challenges in leadership, decision-making, and personal effectiveness.
Newsletter Themes
Breaking Limiting Beliefs:
Identifying and challenging the invisible rules and beliefs that cap your potential.
Execution Excellence:
Moving from planning to action, from intention to results.
Emotional Intelligence:
Using emotions as fuel rather than letting them derail you.
Relationship Optimization:
Building and maintaining relationships that accelerate rather than drain.
Cognitive Performance:
Thinking more clearly, making better decisions, avoiding common mental traps.
Testimonials
Jess Rosenberg (@jessperate):
“Cannot recommend @drgurner’s substack newsletter ‘Ultra Successful’ enough. Receiving them feels like I have my own personal growth hacker coach whispering in my ear. And I love that the wisdom is coming from a brilliant, successful, and badass woman.”
Tom House (@tomhouse):
“I just subscribed to Ultra Successful. I have loved following @drgurner and believe she is one of the best voices to be listening to on elite performance in any field. Highly recommend following and subscribing!”
Kim Ghattas (@KimGhattas):
“Looking for a Christmas gift? Give your friends, siblings, partners, co-workers, husband, wife, everyone, give them gift of subscription to @drgurner’s @SubstackInc Ultra Successful. Incredibly motivational with practical advice, not just for CEO’s or tech peeps, but everyone.”
The Knowledge Project Episodes: Deep Dive into Dr. Gurner’s Philosophy
Episode #169: Caring Deeply, Challenging Directly (Part 1)
Key Topics Covered:
- Strategies for performing up to your potential
- Discipline versus motivation
- Imaginary rules learned in childhood that limit adults
- Setting boundaries effectively
- The advantages of caring deeply and challenging directly
- How to give and receive difficult feedback
Memorable Insights:
- Why most people are capable of far more than they imagine
- The psychology behind self-imposed limitations
- How childhood conditioning creates adult constraints
- Strategies for breaking free from invisible rules
Best For: Anyone feeling limited by invisible barriers, leaders wanting to give better feedback, people struggling with self-imposed constraints.
Episode #172: Caring Deeply, Challenging Directly (Part 2)
Key Topics Covered:
- The consequences of setting high standards
- Dangers of basing identity on what you do
- Removing blindspots in life and work
- Having hard conversations effectively
- Strategies before confronting someone
- Overcoming emotions on difficult days
- Ending toxic relationships
- Red flags in bad relationships
- Fighting up front
- Getting out of cognitive ruts
- What success actually means
Memorable Insights:
- The six-step formula for emotional resilience (mentioned as “MAGIC” by listeners)
- How high standards create friction and how to manage it
- Why your identity needs to extend beyond your work
- The systematic approach to difficult conversations
Best For: Executives dealing with high standards’ consequences, anyone navigating difficult relationships, leaders wanting systematic frameworks for hard conversations.
Other Notable Podcast Appearances
The Learning Leader Show #538
Host: Ryan Hawk
Focus: Setting high standards, being relentlessly resourceful, achieving huge results
Key Insights:
- Compared to Wendy Rhoades of “Billions”
- Working with top percentile talent
- What separates good from great performers
- Building relentless resourcefulness
CamBro Conversations #206
Focus: Unlocking the secrets of ultra successful performers
Key Topics:
- Dr. Gurner’s background in psychology
- Working in maximum-security prisons
- Transition to tech advising and executive coaching
- What top 1% clients want to work on
- Common strengths of elite performers
- Supporting with self-limiting beliefs
- Managing ego at the highest levels
CamBro Conversations #273
Focus: Break the rules to be ultra successful
Key Topics:
- Why you should set unreasonably high standards
- Tapping into every emotion as fuel
- Secret advantages of boredom
- Why rules are not for you
- Breaking free from conventional limitations
The Danny Miranda Podcast #396
Focus: Peak performance coaching like Wendy Rhoades
Key Topics:
- Psychology behind leadership success
- Mindset mastery
- Partnership in driving growth
- The power of reinvention
How to Apply Dr. Gurner’s Framework: Your Implementation Guide
Week 1: Identify Your Imaginary Rules
Day 1-2: Rule Inventory
- List 10 things you believe you “can’t” do or “shouldn’t” try
- For each, ask: “Is this a real constraint or an imaginary rule?”
- Identify which rules are social constructs versus actual limitations
Day 3-4: Internal vs. External Reference
- Notice when you check external validation before acting
- Practice trusting your internal sense of what you’re capable of
- Make one decision this week based purely on internal reference
Day 5-7: Crown Yourself
- Identify one area where you’re waiting for permission
- Grant yourself that permission explicitly
- Take one action from your new “crowned” position
Month 1: Building the Ultra Successful Foundation
Week 1: Set Higher Standards
- Audit your current standards in work, relationships, health
- For each area, define what “unreasonably high” would look like
- Choose one area to implement higher standards immediately
Week 2: Develop Bias to Action
- Identify three things you’ve been planning but not executing
- Set execution deadlines for all three
- Ship imperfect versions rather than waiting for perfect
Week 3: Channel Emotions as Fuel
- When you feel anger, fear, or frustration, don’t suppress it
- Ask: “How can I channel this energy toward my goals?”
- Practice converting emotional energy to action energy
Week 4: Practice Caring Deeply, Challenging Directly
- Identify one relationship where you’ve avoided a difficult conversation
- Prepare using Dr. Gurner’s framework (clarify goal, separate fact from story, consider their perspective)
- Have the conversation this week
Month 2-3: Advanced Integration
Daily Practices:
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