Do you think you stay the way you are all through out your life? Do you believe that your capabilities are predetermined and dependent on genetics? If so, you have a fixed mindset missing out on a lot of possibilities and potential manifestations laying dormant in your system.
It doesn’t need to be this way, the fact that you are reading this is a sign that you are curious in breaking free from having a fixed mindset. Let’s know more about these mindsets and get on towards actionable tips to apply in our day to day.
You are perfect the way you are … and could use a little improvement
This insight is from Shunryu Suzuki (Beginners Mind). This one has stuck with me for a long time now and comes quite handy in staying in the middle of being and becoming. Your improvement is what you are. Deepak Copra said to view life as a verb for we are always changing moment to moment through breath, thoughts, emotions and food. The thing to keep in mind is to how we are changing, is it towards the higher Good of ourselves and others? or to degradation, atrophy and indifference. Lean in to what inspires, it might be little and simple, but know that it is important.
We often catch ourselves saying “this thing is not for me, I’m not the type of person who does this, I could never accomplish that” these are fixed mindsets and can easily be shifted to “this is not the thing for me right now but I can give it a try and see how it feels, I’m not the type of person who does this but let me give it a try and see how it feels, I could never accomplish that but I can start with this simple small step right now.” Adding yet to a “not” statement is handy too.
Watch your thoughts all through out the day and catch your mind if you have an unconscious fixed habit that hinders you from trying something new.
“Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed no hope at all.”
– Dale Carnegie
Becoming is your being
This insight is inspired by Carol Dweck (Mindset). She said, becoming is better than being but we can also view it as one and the same thing. You are gradually becoming even if no effort is applied. The life within us expresses its majesty even if you are just sitting doing nothing. We often get wrapped up in what is needed to be done and finished but as Alan Watts said, the music is enjoyed not per note and not just the final bang. Be gentle in your gradual becoming, take on the pace of nature. Gentle, secure, grounded & correct in all aspects. Enjoy your moment to moment arrival always at an interesting place. That’s all there is, we just are always in an interesting place and the next small step is up to you. Make that step one of effortless effort.
“The Universe contains three things that cannot be destroyed; Being, Awareness and LOVE”
– Deepak Chopra
Do you embrace challenges?
Make a habit of seeking challenge, in seeking challenge, we grow and widen our domain of familiarity. We create new neural connections, we create paths of opportunities. I always keep in mind and have practiced that if I deliberately challenge myself first thing in the morning, the rest of the day is easy. It can be something physical or something mentally challenging like creating something. Befriend challenges and discover a better version of yourself.
“Challenges make you discover things about yourself that you never really knew.”
– Cicely Tyson
Do you accept and learn from criticism?
This might seem simplistic but this time let’s be more intentional about this. Accepting criticism is hard because the ego only listens to praise and self aggrandizement. In our self actualization journey, knowing the difference between your ego and your real self is key to mastery. Nurture the part of you that is open to listen and change; that is your real self. The one that can’t accept criticisms is your ego, and in refusing to change, learn and grow it inflicts pain. We have discussed in earlier posts that when we believe the separateness of ego, it only hurts us. So from time to time, ask yourself (What is this situation trying to teaching me?)
“The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.”
– Norman Vincent Peale
Are you more clever than bewildered?
We were all once a kid, remember your curiosities when you were 7? We must not lose this sense of bewilderment. In mindful noticing of things around, you will find yourself flabbergasted with awe only if you take the time to look closely with curious appreciation. Look at a leaf, a rock and a tree, watch cars and trains pass by, breathe and observe the sparkles of the sun on the water. Imagine outer space, imagine time before and after you are here, isn’t it too amazing? Here’s a fact to be bewildered upon; “There are more patterns of connections between neurons in your brain than there are sub atomic particles in the universe” look up the work of Gerald Edelman. We often times get clever and assume that our way of thinking is the only way and we end up taking for granted possibilities.
So the next time you feel the urge to dismiss a certain situation or event. Approach it with new eyes. Everything can be experienced anew, even brushing your teeth.
“That’s the ruling story on this planet. We live suspended between Love & Ego”
– Richard Powers
Observe your attitude towards learning
Do you ever find yourself saying, “Oh he’s just a natural when it comes to basketball, I’m not”. Swap it with “He put a ton of time practicing to achieve that, I’m able to achieve that skill level if I put my time and effort on it.
Consume inspiring media and connect with people who encourage a growth mindset. Be mindful of your unconscious biases, once you identify them it will be the start of unstoppable growth.
“Your attitude, not your aptitude, will determine your altitude.”
– Zig Ziglar
Learn about neuro plasticity
Learn about the the most amazing thing between your ears and what it is capable of. Click here if you wanna deep dive on this topic. Our brains, like our muscles are capable of changing to where your desires take you. If you want a brain with an immense capability for playing music, start practicing 1 song. You are moldable and ever changing. Just thinking of this brings a feeling of liberation. I used to not be able to touch my toes but now my padahastasana (yoga pose) rocks. So imagine what you could be, write out a simple plan and act on it daily for 66 days. It’s fun and you’ll discover parts of yourself you never knew existed.
“I was suitably impressed with the eighty-six billion neurons that glittered like stars in the skull but was a little overwhelmed by the idea that the constellations could be moved, shaped, and changed negatively and positively.”
– Jennifer Fraser
Practice makes permanent
What we practice gets easier and soon enough becomes automatic. Grow into the person who does the type of thing you desire through deliberate practice. Make walking around the block a permanent practice by doing it daily no matter the weather conditions may be. It is not enough to learn something; daily application is where compounding growth is. When the mind hints you to “skip it”, do a 5 second countdown and just do it anyway. You’ll thank yourself later. It is always best to track your progress and do a daily assessment in the evening on how you did that day.
“We don’t rise to the level of our expectations; we fall to the level of our training.”
– Archilochus
“ There are no shortcuts. It will take you at least a decade to achieve expertise, and you will need to invest that time wisely, by engaging in “deliberate” practice—practice that focuses on tasks beyond your current level of competence and comfort.”
Afterthoughts
Knowing the difference between having a growth mindset and a fixed mindset; where do you think you stand? In what ways are you having a fixed mindset and in what ways are you having a growth mindset? What possibilities do you imagine for yourself if you cultivate more growth mindedness?
1 comment
I think I’ve always had a fixed mindset that’s fraught with limitations. I think I’ve always amplified other people’s abilities as them being naturally gifted and not thinking about it from the level of effort they put in to becoming who they are. However, I know there’s a meshing between the two when it comes to giftedness and the measure of work that’s put into becoming a more refined version of yourself. So, I don’t think I’ve mitigated the work aspect completely but I’ve certainly propped up natural ability. My fixed mindset is more reflective of low self esteem and an inability to see myself beyond where I’ve been and where I’m currently at. I desire to have a growth mindset that looks beyond limitations and uncovers aspects of myself that I wasn’t even aware of.
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