You’re trying to control the wrong things
It’s 80 degrees in October and my perfectly planned outdoor event just became a sweaty mess.
Sound familiar? Different details, same feeling.
Here’s what I realized while standing in that unexpected heat: we waste enormous energy trying to control things that were never ours to control.
The shift that changes everything
The weather doesn’t care about your plans. Your inbox will never be empty. People will disappoint you. Life will throw curveballs on a Tuesday afternoon.
But here’s what IS in your control: how you show up.
Not perfectly. Not optimally. Just… how you show up.
Three questions that anchor me
When everything feels chaotic, I come back to this:
• Am I present right now?
• Am I being kind (to others AND myself)?
• Am I doing my best with what I actually have?
That’s it. No productivity hacks. No optimization. Just showing up.
What this looks like in real life
Yesterday I was frustrated, distracted, running on fumes. I couldn’t control the deadline. I couldn’t control my energy level.
But I could control showing up with honesty:
“I’m struggling today, but I’m here.”
That simple shift? It gave me my power back.
Your turn
Next time you catch yourself trying to control the uncontrollable (the traffic, the economy, someone else’s reaction), ask yourself:
“How do I want to show up right now?”
Then do just that.
Everything else is weather.
What’s one thing you’re trying to control that you need to let go of? Reply and tell me—I read every response.